Put your heart on a shelf

When I was a little girl imagining growing up and falling in love it was always the same. Meeting this amazing person, and growing with them, just that person. We see movies, read articles, photographs, and music all showing us beautiful successful monogamous relationships.
I sit here writing this, as a single mother of two I worry about my daughters being exposed to all of this, because as a whole we search for  monogamy in the most messed up way possible. I've experienced my fair share of cheating, to the point where if a man picks up his cell phone while we are out, it makes me tense. After my marriage ended it took away some trust.  I still see myself as a hopeful individual but that said there seems to be an obvious breakdown in the dating world. I'm sure men are as vulnerable as women.  Actually I think both married and single people are at risk here.
I would be lying if I said it didn't feel like I am constantly competing with 2 or 3 other women for one persons attention, because all he has to do is pick up a cell phone and boom, "you have 10 new matches" on $!#&@ dating site.  How are we supposed to find anything real if we're all just looking for the next thing? Maybe I'm old fashioned but if your interested, talk to me, let me know I'm important, and you will have someone loyal in return. Don't make me more than a friend but less than your girlfriend because you want to see what your options are. Dating someone should make you happy not insecure.

It's such a simple concept, if you want something real and monogamous why would you be looking at multiple people to find it?